City College
Jake Bermejo
Class: English Composition 21003
12/6/16
Supportive parents vs. Constructive Parents
Abstract
The purpose of this paper is to explain the different effects a supportive and constructive parental style can have on a child’s development. A supportive role is a style used to promote positive morals and values that leave children more empathic and kinder to peers. A constructive parental role promotes negative reinforcements and strict teachings. It leaves a child feeling obedient and submissive to parental control. In order to find the more effective choice between the two I plan to discuss what child development is. As well as use different experiments conducted by the Society of Research in Child Development and Stanford Center for Youth development. These experiments will measure and prove the different effects each parental style can have on a child’s development.I will even use statistical data from a national survey taken by the National Center for Health Statistics, to explain the different types of variables that can affect a child’s development.Which will ultimately, provide me with enough information to prove that a supportive role by definition, is a way more effective parental style than a constructive role.
Being a parent is something anyone can do, acting like a parent should is the real task. Parenting is a very wide and controversially spoken topic that revolves around a child’s developmental stages.These stages are known as the Piaget stages of development, created by Jean Piaget.(Schroff,Amita“WebMD.com”) There are four different stages that go from infancy to adulthood.The four stages in order are the sensorimotor stage,preoperational stage,concrete operational, and formal operational stage..The sensorimotor stage focuses on a baby’s first 24 months of birth where all they can see and understand is what is right in front of them.( Schroff,Amita“WebMD.com”).The next is the preoperational stage that varies from toddlerhood to early childhood. In this stage, children are able to think about things more symbolically like referring to the color red as blood or a cartoon character. They use their intuition rather than logic to create their own sense of imagination and creativity.The next stage is the concrete operational stage that focuses on ages 7-11, where they begin to comprehend logical and concrete reasoning (Schroff,Amita“WebMD.com”).They begin to see the difference between fact and opinion. The final stage is the formal operational stage that goes from age 11 all the way to adulthood. In this stage we are able to comprehend complex variables and abstract concepts like algebra and science.(Schroff,Amita“WebMD.com”). We are also able to think about things more clearly and logically to a point where we see the world for what it truly is.
Although all important in a child’s growth, the two stages that can best highlight the direct correlation between parenting quality and a child’s development would be the infancy stages.In an experiment conducted by the Society of Research in Child Development, researchers focused on the first three years of children to see the “beneficial effects parenting quality can have on children's language development,literacy,cognition, and school readiness” (Belsky Jay, et.al “Child Development”, vol. 76, pgs 384-396). Other circumstances like a family's annual income were also taken into account.The experiment consisted of 2089 families and children that were well below the poverty line. It was a “randomized controlled experiment” that had a majority of mothers around the age of 22. (Belsky Jay, et.al “Child Development”, vol. 76, pgs 384-396). Researchers even predicted that “maternal characteristics would greatly influence the quality of parenting styles and child development outcomes” during the child’s first three years (Belsky Jay, et.al “Child Development”, vol. 76, pgs 384-396) .
Within the span of 14 to 36 months researchers conducted a set of three trials to evaluate the child’s cognitive stimulation. At 14 months, researchers would have the mother’s choose from 3 different bags all containing different items like books,toys, or learning blocks that would be used to asses mother and child play. After this task was completed, at 24 months researchers would use a teaching task like learning cards to further evaluate the mother and child’s relationship.Then at 36 months, researchers would use a puzzles task to see if the child was able to complete difficult tasks with the comfort of his mother there.Her supportive presence was then measured by her “emotional availability” and “affective” presence during the tasks (Belsky Jay, et.al “Child Development”, vol. 76, pgs 384-396). After evaluating the data from each family, researchers found that the “parenting quality was assured to directly affect children’s outcome at each age”. Not only proving the positive effects parenting quality can have on a child’s outcome but also showing one of two commonly used styles of parenting known as supportive parenting.
Supportive parenting is commonly associated with promoting positive values, morals, family communication, and family relationships that can lead to a child’s successful upbringing. A supportive parent focuses on “proactive teaching”,positive reinforcements,and the provision of appropriate play experiences when “dealing with a child’s contact with peers” (Pettit,Gregory S et al. Child Development vol.68,pgs 908-923). When dealing with proactive teaching, parents often focus on setting good morals and values that allow children to thrive socially and academically. Such teachings also involved the use of positive reinforcements to encourage children to set early standards in life for what they want to accomplish and what they need to achieve.Such a style is presented in a letter written by Kate Chia, a 2015 graduate of NYU (Chia, Kate. "My Asian Pussycat Parents.") . In this letter, Kate discusses the role her parents had in her life when she was growing up. She discusses how her dad offered to buy her a gift in the third grade if she got a “C or lower” on her exam (Chia, Kate. "My Asian Pussycat Parents."). He then proclaims to say that if she scored “higher” than that he wouldn’t buy her anything (Chia, Kate. "My Asian Pussycat Parents.").This one event showed her that he gave her two gifts instead of just one, that day. He gave her the gift to “cultivate her own desire for excellence” as well as a
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"healthy psyche to pursue it” (Chia, Kate. "My Asian Pussycat Parents.").She even states that when she stayed up for 22 hours studying for an exam in inorganic chemistry, her parents asked her to pursue another career. Rather than “break[ing] her neck to make a living (Chia, Kate. "My Asian Pussycat Parents.").Her parents just wanted her to be “healthy and happy”(Chia, Kate. "My Asian Pussycat Parents."). In the figure above, we see a picture used to detail Kate’s reaction towards her parents supportive and permissive parental style (Chia, Kate. "My Asian Pussycat Parents."). The little girl above looks worried and confused as if she does not know what the man’s hands will do. In kate’s situation, she is confused as to why her parents do not want her to excel academically at whatever cost. Instead, all they wished for is her happiness. This left Kate very confused but in the end made her appreciate her parents even more. To a point where her relationship with her parents became even stronger. Today, she continues to promote her family's positive values by continuing to strive for her goals with a strong sense of motivation and excellent work ethic.
Over time, children may forget about how their parents raised them but the effects they are left with do not.In a seven year study done by the Society for Research in Child development, researchers wanted to examine the prolonging effects “early supportive parenting can have on a child’s adjustment to school” (Pettit, Gregory S et. al “Child Development” Vol.68 pgs 908-923).
They measured the levels of interest and disciplinary encounters parents had with their children. Such encounters were mainly just calm discussions and small disciplinary actions like decreasing their allowance by a dollar. The outcome showed high levels of academic progress over the years and very little issues with peers.(Pettit, Gregory S et. al “Child Development” Vol.68 pgs 908-923).Showing that although time may pass, the effect parents have on children will always continue to follow them as they grow. Behavioral control is also another positive aspect most supportive parents have. It is the idea of rule enforcement and monitoring a child’s whereabouts (Hillaker,Barbara D. et al. “Family Relations vol 57 pgs, 591-601) This provides a sense of security for the child and promotes positive “youth psychosocial development” (Hillaker,Barbara D. et al. “Family Relations vol 57 pgs, 591-601). A positive effect of this can be children becoming more prone to maintaining curfews rather than breaking them. Keeping them away from negative influences and promoting a positive family relationship. Supportive parenting however, is just one style of parenting. Some parents have found that constructive parenting can present a strong foundation for raising children in a manner that is strict yet appropriate.
Constructive parenting is mostly associated with negative reinforcements, strict teachings, and a set of absolute morals and values that must be followed. Constructive parents usually try to “shape, control, and evaluate” the behavior and attitude their children have by using their own set of absolute standards (Dornbusch, Sanford M. et al. “Child Development” vol. 58 pgs 1244-1257). A good example of this can be seen in a child’s academic performance. Where the parents respond to poor grades by getting upset and promoting negative reinforcements. Such reinforcements can consist of being “grounded”, losing allowance, or in worst case scenarios physical punishment (Dornbusch, Sanford M. et al. “Child Development” vol. 58 pgs 1244-1257). However, even if the child were to improve parents would still react the same and tell the child “to do better” and that “other grades should be as good as this one” (Dornbusch, Sanford M. et al. “Child Development” vol. 58 pgs 1244-1257). In constructive parenting, there is also a strong emphasis on “obedience” and “respect for authority” (Dornbusch, Sanford M. et al. “Child Development” vol. 58 pgs 1244-1257). There is no room for parent to child relationships. The only relationship is that of an authority figure that gives orders and a subordinate that just follows them. It is this preservation of order that gives the parent control over the child’s growth and overall performance in life.
Most parents today also tend to use “similar parenting strategies or practices that they themselves have received in childhood” (Chen,Zeng-yin. And Howard B. Kaplan “Journal of Marriage and Family vol.63 pgs 17-31).Meaning that under the wrong circumstances, a child exposed to a harsh and negative parental style could end up raising their own child in the same manner.This is also a long term effect constructive parenting can have. During adolescence, children can become more prone to delinquent behaviors if not treated properly. In a study done by the Society of Research Child development, researchers wanted to understand the correlation between an adolescent's delinquent behavior and a parent’s parental role in the child’s life. They found that the “lack of involvement, parental rejection, and low levels of monitoring” did not only greatly predict delinquency issues (Feldman S. Shirley, and Daniel A Weinberger. “Child Development” vol 65, pgs 195-211). But also decreased a child’s “social skills, lack of goals,and self regulatory capacities” that would later lead them into following criminal behavior (Feldman S. Shirley, and Daniel A Weinberger. “Child Development” vol 65, pgs 195-211). It is the parent’s responsibility to regulate the child’s behavior in a way that “promotes self regulation and reduces the need for external controls” (Feldman S. Shirley, and Daniel A Weinberger. “Child Development” vol 65, pgs 195-211).
In the right environment, constructive behavior can do exactly this. In a study done by the Stanford Center for Youth development, researchers found that a majority of child’s academic performance was directly related to the type of parental style the child received. In a large and diverse sample in “San Francisco Bay high school”, children with parents who followed a constructive style mainly scored lower grades than those with supportive parents (Dornbusch,Sanford M.et al. “Child Development” vol. 58 pgs 1244-1257).The findings however, also proved to show that children in asian ethnic families under the same constructive style actually managed to have a positive correlation in their grades.The family however, had both types of parental style where one parent was supportive and another was constructive.Although, this type of finding did prove to be very significant because of the way it showed how important a variable like ethnicity can be when promoting an effective style of parenting.It is this diverse variable that allows both parental styles to flourish in some areas where one style seems to be a more appropriate form of parenting than the other. Constructive parenting however for the most part, is mostly seen as a “harsh, power assertive and inconsistent” parental style that has been regularly found to have a negative impact on a child’s developmental stages (Feldman S. Shirley, and Daniel A Weinberger. “Child Development vol.65 pgs 195-211).
When raising a child, choosing the right parental style is always an important thing to do. Effective parenting however, is constituted of “multiple elements that are melded together to form distinct styles” (Pettit, Gregory S et. al vol.68 pgs 908-923).One must take into consideration different elements like a family's economic status, educational background,employment, and marital status. Raising a child by oneself is one of the hardest things a person can do especially if they are well below the poverty line themselves. Having different expenses like diapers, clothes, formula, and other miscellaneous items makes raising a baby really expensive. 
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In a national survey taken by the National Center for Health Statistics, over 77% of teen pregnancies are unplanned, they are either “unwanted or occurred too soon” as shown in figure 2 ("The Office of Adolescent Health, U.S. Department of Health and Human Services.").In figure 2, we can also see that in each section of unintended, mistimed, and unwanted births a huge percentage involves teenage girls around the ages of 15-19 (Mosher W.D etc al. “National Center for Health Statistics”).We see that 58% of them had mistimed births and 19% of them also had unwanted births (Mosher W.D etc al. “National Center for Health Statistics”).All scoring a huge majority in each section. Proving that most births occur during a young age. This can be a very scary thing to do especially if you're alone. That's why having a supportive spouse in a family can help promote a supportive parental style. While parents who have no form of support or stable economic status, would most likely turn to adoption. Other parents who just end up raising the child themselves would end up doing so in a harsh and ill manner that would later have a negative impact on the child’s growth..
Since the beginning parenting has always played an important role in child development. Whether it is as a overprotective father or nurturing mother, parents have always been left with the task of raising their child in the best way they see fit. It can be as a supportive parent who constantly tries to maintain a positive relationship with their child. Using different positive reinforcements like complimenting them or encouraging them to succeed in a way that leaves them feeling happy instead of stressed like Kate.Or parents can also take a constructive approach, providing a firm and strict way of teaching that leaves children with a clear sets of rules and standards to abide by. Each parent can have their own unique style of parenting, the most effective however as seen in each experiment has been proven to be supportive parenting. In each experiment the variable that promoted a child’s development the most both physically and mentally was a supportive role. Whether it was providing a child with a supportive maternal role or promoting levels of academic progress. Supporting a child has proven itself to be the best way to raise a child.
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